Mattering, Belonging, and Inclusion: How They Work Together
Part 2 of the “Mattering in Early Childhood Education” Series
“Inclusion opens the door. Belonging invites you to sit at the table.
Mattering assures you the table wouldn’t be the same without you.”
Mattering — “I Am Significant Here.”
Definition: Mattering is the personal and emotional sense of being valued, recognized, and needed.
It’s not just about being part of a team — it’s about knowing that your presence and contribution make a difference.
Key Aspects (based on the work of Zach Mercurio):
Noticed: Others see me and acknowledge my efforts.
Affirmed: Others value who I am and what I bring.
Needed: My work and presence are essential to our shared purpose.
When mattering exists People feel purpose, energy, and confidence. They engage more deeply and persist through challenges because they know they make a difference.
Example: A teaching assistant is thanked for noticing a child’s emotional needs and sharing them with the lead teacher. The message is clear: You matter to this child and to our team.
Belonging — “I Am Accepted and Connected Here.”
Definition: Belonging is the emotional experience of being accepted, included, and connected within a group. It’s about being part of a community where authenticity is safe and valued.
Key Aspects:
You feel welcomed and connected to others.
You can be yourself without fear of judgment.
There is mutual trust, empathy, and support.
When belonging exists people feel comfortable contributing ideas, sharing feedback, and taking interpersonal risks. Trust grows, and collaboration strengthens.
Example: During a staff meeting, the facilitator ensures every voice is heard and acknowledges each contribution. The message is clear: You belong in this conversation.
Inclusion — “I Am Invited and Empowered to Participate Here.”
Definition: Inclusion is the intentional practice of creating structures, environments, and systems where everyone has equitable access, voice, and influence.
It’s belonging in action — about who gets invited, heard, and empowered.
Key Aspects:
Everyone is intentionally included in decisions and opportunities.
Differences are welcomed and leveraged as strengths.
Equity and fairness are built into systems and policies.
When inclusion exists, people feel empowered to contribute meaningfully and see their input reflected in decisions. It builds fairness, transparency, and shared ownership.
Example: Before revising the curriculum, leadership invites staff from multiple roles and cultural backgrounds to co-design. The message is clear: Your perspective belongs in shaping our future.
The Connection Between Them
Mattering, belonging, and inclusion are deeply interconnected — and when one is missing, the others suffer.
Inclusion ensures everyone has a place.
Belonging ensures everyone feels connected once they’re there.
Mattering ensures everyone knows they make a difference.
Together, they create the foundation for thriving early learning environments where adults and children feel seen, valued, and needed — not by chance, but by design.
Reflection for Teams
How do our systems ensure everyone is invited and heard (Inclusion)?
How do we intentionally nurture connection and safety (Belonging)?
How do we recognize, affirm, and depend on one another’s strengths (Mattering)?
Which of these three feels strongest in our culture — and which needs more attention?
Interested in bringing “Mattering” to your organization? For coaching or leadership training inquiries, contact Deidre Harris at deidre.harris@teamagreements.com.